The Manager Mom Epidemic: How Moms Got Stuck Doing Everything for Their Families and What They Can Do About It (Paperback)

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Are you a mom who does it all? This is the book for you.

It's impossible to deny—most moms continue to do way more household work and childcare than most dads. Working full time, raising kids, cooking dinner, making sure every appointment and activity is lined up and that everyone gets there on time... no wonder you're tired! But despite all the books and articles lamenting the crushing mental load and emotional labor women bear for their families, no one has come up with a plan to actually make things change. Until now.

The Manager Mom Epidemic is the first book that not only acknowledges the fact that moms are burning out, but shows you how to transfer responsibility for daily tasks from yourself to your partner and also (gasp!) your kids. Clinical psychologist and child discipline expert Thomas W. Phelan, PhD explains how we got into this mess in the first place, and how we can get out of it through a calm, systematic approach to teaching our families how to take initiative and contribute in meaningful ways. Dr. Phelan walks you through real-life situations and shows you how to step back from the things that are dragging you down. For example:

  • Your Maternal Identity—the things you tell yourself you have to do in order to be a "good" mom
  • The oppressive trap of chronic supervision
  • Our society's curious underestimation of children's capabilities
  • How to eliminate primary childcare with tweens and teens
  • How to manager resistant or traditionalist dads

Realistic and simple enough to implement in your home right away, The Manager Mom Epidemic provides a roadmap for you to take your life back and proves that the happiest families share the work and the fun equally.

About the Author

Dr. Thomas W. Phelan is an internationally renowned expert, author, and lecturer on child discipline and Attention Deficit Disorder. A registered Ph.D. clinical psychologist, he appears frequently on radio and TV. Dr. Phelan practices and works in the western suburbs of Chicago.

Praise For…

"Tom Phelan's book effectively challenges the stories mothers tell themselves about what an ideal mother should look like -- in short, the Maternal Identity. But even more valuable are his practical guidelines for releasing mothers from their perceived responsibilities! Successfully implementing Phelan's methods will increase kids' independence, improve and deepen fathers' family relationships, and make mothers much happier and more fulfilled." — Sarah Hart-Unger, MD, pediatrician and co-host of Best of Both Worlds Podcast

"Phelan brings his common-sense yet practical advice to a well-worn parenting issue. As with ­"1-2-3," this ­latest will fly off the shelves, so stock up on multiple copies." — Library Journal

"I predict this will change the lives of many families—mine included—for the better. A must read." — Emily Oster, New York Times bestselling author of Expecting Better and Cribsheet

Product Details
ISBN: 9781492694496
ISBN-10: 1492694495
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Publication Date: December 3rd, 2019
Pages: 272
Language: English